Saturday, December 16, 2017

A New Calling for our Family

This is a post I never thought I would actually get to type. 
I see many others type on the subject, but never thought I would be doing it. 
We have been brought to the world of homeschooling!!!!!!
EEEK!!!!!!!
A little background:
I have my teaching degree in elementary education. I soon realized after graduation and substituting some, that it was not something I had a huge love for. You see, this is because I graduated college with a 16 month old and newborn. How I got through that time in my life, I still don't know. 
With God's help.
My heart was at home with my babies. There was NO way I could leave them to go teach in a classroom all day. So I didn't. I stayed home. 
I will say that some years, the world got me. It sucked me in saying "Stacy, you have a degree for this you must do something with it." I listened, and was miserable. I was away from my boys and we were all miserable. 
So off the teaching wagon I went. Back home to my happy place. 
When our oldest son (we have 3 boys 9,7,2) was in Kindergarten I brought up the idea to my husband that we should look into homeschooling. He shot that idea down.  Would not even talk to me about it. 
I asked again when my son was in 1st grade. He shot it down again. 
It wasn't until the end of my son's 1st grade year when the transgender bathroom issue hit the news. He said, you may be right on this. Let's look into it. At that point, I got scared. Our good friends who have 6 children were pulling their children out of public school and so we had the support. However, I got cold feet. So I dismissed the idea. 
The next school year came (my boys were in 2nd and 1st) and the thoughts would come to mind about homeschooling, but I really was scared and worried that I couldn't do it all. I would become a failure. 
My oldest son had a very hard year. With a teacher with no compassion and love. It was super hard to hear his stories each day, but we survived. 
It wasn't until this year come November (boys are in 3rd and 2nd grade now) that we are both ready for this new calling. Many circumstances have come and we feel this is best for our boys. I don't want to share many details in our reasons why because I wouldn't want to down our public school system. Even though I don't agree with their ways, I also know many great teachers who give 100%. Sadly, not all of them love teaching and it only hurts the children. 
First my husband and I said, well we will pull them out at the end of this year. Let's let them finish the year and then pull them so it's a quiet leave. Then as time went on in December, we realized we were only keeping them miserable week by week, day by day. My husband actually made the choice to pull them out. 
In our state of WV we must give the 2 week notice of intent to homeschool. We drove while they were in school and did that. So we now are waiting out our 2 weeks. This coming week is our last week of public school. I can't tell you how freeing it feels, and how excited and ready our whole family is. I feel ready, not scared or worried like before. My husband is fully on board. It is just a wonderful feeling. 
Our boys do not know. We have ordered the curriculum and supplies needed and we will give it to them on Christmas morning. I believe this will be the best Christmas we have ever had. That is my prayer. Attached to the supplies and books, we will write a letter saying that they will not be returning. 
We are thrilled, and so excited for just 9 more days. It has been quite hard for me to keep quiet. I like to share everything with my kids, and it's been hard keeping this from them. 
If any of you, have read this long post and are still awake :) please let me know if you homeschool. I would love and like any advice you have. I have met some awesome women in the blogging world that have just shared and prayed for us. I am so thankful for these Godly women. 
I hope that your December is filled with love and peace during this season. 
I will update everyone with pictures once they open this package :)
Happy Saturday!
*I share these pictures with you, because it warmed my heart to see our family in the past and present. We have all grown so much. Physically and spiritually. Boy am I thankful.*
My husband was driving us home from his parents yesterday evening after we went for a visit. Out of now where he said "Isn't it so great how God gives to those who are patient? I am in awe that once we started living out the bible, things were just easy." Not to say our life is a piece of cake, but I think he means that everything has fallen into place. With his job, homeschool, etc. I just couldn't help but cry. Tears just streaming down my face. Here is this man who was not raised or brought up in church, and was the farthest from the Lord when we first met. He has changed and turned his life around. I am so blessed and thankful for what prayer can do. 

12 comments:

Wendi said...

Yay! I'm soooo happy for you!! Pulling Megan out of school at the end of 5th grade was the BEST thing we could have done. I will be honest and say some days are hard. Thankfully the great days out number the hard ones. We are half way through our first year and I've leaned a ton. My only regret is that we didn't do it sooner! With that said I know that God had a reason for it to take place when it did and I'm content with that answer.

The only advice I have is to not overly stress about schedules and where your child is academicly. I've found that it is better for Megan to actually understand what she is learning instead of sticking to the lesson plan schedule. We are really behind in math and I'm okay with that. Rushing won't help her, but taking my time to make sure she understands will.

Praying you have a wonderful transition to your new homeschool journey!

Simply Handmade Farmhouse said...

As you know we have home-school since 1992 and we are still are today, I am so happy for you all. I can't wait to see their little faces when they open the school books. I am here for you, but I am sure you are going to do great!! I think you having a college degree is very wise, if anything happens to your husband you have this to fall back on. Praise the Lord for what He is doing in your family lives. HUGS Sweet Friend!

Muzzie said...

I read your blog for the first time a few minutes ago. We've homeschooled our seven children for the last 25+ years. None ever went to school and now five have graduated. Homeschooling has been the biggest challenge and the biggest blessing!! The best advice I received was to realize that academics are not the most important thing. Teach your kids the Bible, read to them every day, do some math and have fun. Our kids have done well, and now our daughter is homeschooling our grandchildren. God bless.

4sonsfarmhouse said...

Thank you for visiting and for the advice!!

4sonsfarmhouse said...

Thank you for everything Teresa. You are such an encouragement. I am so thankful for your wise words.

4sonsfarmhouse said...

Thank you Wendy. I have loved following about your daughters journey. Blessings to your family.

Jessica said...

We moved to Nicholas County, WV from CA last December and we homeschool our kids. They went to public school in CO until we had to move to CA for family reasons. We didn't like the schools in CA so we homeschooled instead. The first year was rocky and scary, but what new things aren't? After the first 2 years, I'm definitely more relaxed about it!

Just wanted to say that the laws were changed last May, and there is no longer a 2 week waiting period. :)

Billie Jo said...

Hello!
I am so happy to meet you!
You have a lovely space here and I am excited to follow you as you begin your Homeschooling journey.

First, congratulations! We are in our fifth year of homeschooling, and we LOVE it!
I could write a book on how much, but let me just say it this way: Homeschooling allows you time to be a family.
We have so much more time in our lives for family things...games, decorating for holidays, watching movies, cooking, baking, learning life skills, helping others...all the things that we used to cram into the weekends when our children went to public school.

I do not speak badly of public schools. I too was an elementary teacher in a public school, and our children attended a Catholic school as well. Homeschooling works for us. It is not for everyone. It is a vocation, one that I am certain you and your husband will embrace.

Please feel free to contact me with any questions or concerns. While I am no means an expert on the topic, I am an advocate and a fan! Blessings for a very Merry Christmas!!!

4sonsfarmhouse said...

Thank you so much for stopping by! I am thankful you commented with the new law. They must have not updated their website. We checked just a few weeks ago and it still said to give the 2 week notice. It's good to know! Thank you and have a blessed a Christmas!

4sonsfarmhouse said...

Thank you so much for commenting. I loved finding your blog. Can't wait to read more. You also have 3 boys! How wonderful to have another similar situation. I will definitely be asking some questions :) Have a blessed Christmas and thanks for stopping by!!!!

4sonsfarmhouse said...

I was wrong thinking of someone else that blogs and homeschool 3 boys. You have 4 children I see :)

Anonymous said...

Congratulations in your decision Staci... I homeschooled both my sons and they went on to college with no issues. It was exciting, hard and so satisfying to know that Our God has a hand in all of it! :)

Take your time. It is going to be a very hard transition. The best advice I can give any family that is starting this new journey, is try not to recreate school in your home. Create comfortable quiet spaces for the children without the feeling of them been in a school setting. Mine learned so much better when I paid attention in how they learned and made the changes accordingly.

You and your family are going to be great at it! :)

Maria